30 “Still A Good Mom” Illustrations Encouraging Moms To Ditch “Social Norms”

After Jamina Bone gave birth to her second child, she was hit with strong postpartum depression, also known as PPD.

“It went from a very educational approach where I was constantly looking up the ‘best’ way to handle every aspect to being unable to move,” Bone told Bored Panda. “I used to plan activities, limit screen time, and make every opportunity a learning moment. I was a Special Educator before having kids so this was everything I wanted and felt equipped to do it all. When PPD hit, it was like wading through mud or even quicksand and still being expected to do all the things.”

She felt broken, unworthy of being a mom for her perfect little beings, and selfish for wanting to get away. “I kept the negative thoughts in my head and often imagined terrifying things from hurting myself to the death of my baby. Being isolated the first several months and lack of sleep were definite factors that played into depression but also not dealing with the sudden death of my mother in law to cancer when I was pregnant. I didn’t realize these were risk factors.” The woman didn’t realize she was depressed. She just thought she was failing.

Over time, however, Bone has managed to get out of the rut. Now, the mom-of-two is encouraging “imPERFECT moms” to ditch social norms and embrace their true badass selves. One of the ways she’s doing it is illustrating everyday situations. Through her pictures, Bone reminds people that a woman can have doubts and still be a good mom. She can feel disappointed and still be a good mom. Most importantly, she can be herself, forget the pseudoperfect happy-go-lucky mentality and still be a good mom.

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Wolfblood Fanatic1 day ago

breathe.16ReplyView more comments

“We moms are bombarded with the ‘proper’ ways to parent from Google to Pinterest and perfection-blasted on social media,” Bone said. “We share baby milestones with our friends and loved ones, but forget to discuss the difficulties of parenthood. Well, let’s be real, motherhood. The mother is expected to give 100% of her body, most of her time, and the majority of her mental energy planning for the what-ifs and all the needs. Community is lost, support is seen as weakness, and if you’re depressed, you’re seen as ungrateful and selfish.”#2 

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Wolfblood Fanatic1 day ago

The tough truth. Needs more upvotes and views.15ReplyView more comments

Bone thinks we are a society that lifts the ‘selfless’ behavior of mothers up on pedestals while condemning the ones who are crying for help. We don’t realize that we confuse selfless with self-hate or self-contempt. “My mother was selfless, but I would also say she hated her body, felt unlovable, and rattled with guilt for not seeing abuses that happened to her children,” Bone explained. “She used so many opportunities to punish herself from not dating, not taking care of her body, to even shaming herself in front of us.”#3 

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Charlotte Sandoval1 day ago

This one needs to be higher. Taking meds is so stigmatized for no reason. Take care of yourself and you take care of your kids.34ReplyView more comments

So, like most adults with children of their own, Bone finds herself trying to correct the wrongs. “Many of us built our adult foundation upon trauma without realizing the need for internal healing. Weirdly enough, depression was my unwanted ‘gift’ that forced me and my family to sort through every aspect in our lives that wasn’t working in our favor. We set boundaries, went to therapy, talked to our doctors, and closed the door on every external expectation for our family.”#4 

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Evelyn Fox1 day ago

This should be higher – trust me, not every mom could breastfeed. :’-(22ReplyView More Replies…View more commentshttps://3b37dc71d797bf851b9cae9291b95019.safeframe.googlesyndication.com/safeframe/1-0-37/html/container.html

The down-to-earth mom describes her parenting as ‘good enough’ and says she is still a work in progress. “I am healing myself and trying to break the cycles of abuse and neglect my husband and I collectively had in our childhoods. I zone in on my own set of values of what I am good at. My kids feel safe and held and seen and heard, and as long as I am moving forward in my own parenting journey, I am good enough,” Bone explained, adding that she and her husband communicate more now than ever which also helps share the burdens and joys of parenting.#5 

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XianJaguar1 day ago

Yelling at your kid is not always bad! Good parents yell at kids to discipline them. Not everyone is as calm as a cucumber. Good mom!34ReplyView More Replies…View more comments

Bone said that one of the most important steps towards overcoming the overwhelming feeling of guilt is celebrating your victories. “I developed a simple online quiz to help mamas find what they are good at. This quiz leads you to know the values that are most important to you so you can learn to turn off the feeling of guilt when you see a Karen posting her gluten-free, no-sugar-added snacks with her home-cooked meals cut out in cute shapes that her kids never complain about after having organized homeschool activities, teaching writing to her 1-year-old because it’s never too soon to learn writing.” Knowing that Karen has different strengths and values than you is key.#6 

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Amanda Sherland1 day ago

Me and the park. Hate it. Anyone else?21ReplyView More Replies…View more comments

“I’m also creating a mental health makeover for exhausted mamas coming out soon! I am really proud of this one and even received input from a psychologist specializing in maternal mental health to be sure I was helping and not hindering growth. To sit in the lies fake mom guilt leads us to believe, we often become friends with those voices and we don’t know who we are without them. We begin to believe the lies over the truth and over time we forget who we are or who we are becoming. Knowing where to start in order to move past these limited beliefs can be debilitating.” This makeover, called “Enough” essentially takes mamas through 5 weeks of progress and habit building based around healthier thoughts, taking control of triggers, and finding a balance that is doable.#7 

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Ms Forty Seven1 day ago

I think this about deciding not to, or bring unable, to breastfeed21ReplyView More Replies…View more comments#8 

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Sarah Blanche Brinsfield1 day ago

Preemie Moms are the Best Moms!16ReplyView more commentshttps://3b37dc71d797bf851b9cae9291b95019.safeframe.googlesyndication.com/safeframe/1-0-37/html/container.html#9 

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XianJaguar1 day ago

Hey, this is REALITY. This is what we had for most of the summer. It has nothing to do with being a bad parent. In fact, frugal parents are usually quite GOOD parents!!23ReplyView More Replies…View more comments#10 

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Sarah Blanche Brinsfield1 day ago

Laundry can wait but babies grow up and need our cuddles now. I wish (for a day) that my bigs were little and that they would seek me out like they once did.22ReplyView More Replies…View more comments#11 

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Kesam1 day ago

Thank you for that “…and dad!”16Reply#12 

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Jamina Bone22 hours ago

Everything can change after having a child. Often mamas begin to hate their body. Learning to love the imPERFECTIONS and heal is important. You are not a bad mom if you don’t lose the weight, nor are you a bad mom for loving your body around your child.10ReplyView more comments#13 

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LittleMissLotus1 day ago

The trolls on this post need to chill. It’s not like this person is saying you should feed your kid nothing but fast food, and one hamburger isn’t going to kill them…47ReplyView More Replies…View more comments#14 

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Teresa Thomas1 day ago

The little bum 18ReplyView more comments#15 

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Colin L1 day ago

Yep. Bodies grow hair. I support practical priorities…11ReplyView more comments#16 

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Colin L1 day ago

Mom’s have a life outside of momming.11ReplyView More Replies…View more comments#17 

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postboredom1 day ago

this little girl is really cute7ReplyView More Replies…View more comments#18 

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XianJaguar1 day ago

I’m kinda shocked at half of these comics. Why in the world would anyone consider a mom “not good” for not indulging their kid in every little thing they want? Of COURSE you are a still a good mom if you tell your kid “no” to going to the playground! Kids need to learn that they do not automatically get everything they scream for.37ReplyView More Replies…View more comments#19 

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Colin L1 day ago

Self care is vital!11ReplyView more comments#20 

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Sarah Blanche Brinsfield1 day ago

“You gotta do, what you gotta do!”12Reply#21 

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Ava-cado20 hours ago

Oh sibling fights, a true challenge to anyone’s parenting style.2Reply#22 

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Red Hair Blue Soul1 day ago

THIS! I hate cooking! My kid is okay on my husband’s cooking and will grow up just fine!!11Reply#23 

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Colin L1 day ago

Mom’s sunny expectations are exhausting. Better to be true to yourself than, and shine in your own ways.7Reply#24 

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Scyth1 day ago

The hair is nicely done.10Reply#25 

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Colin L23 hours ago

Silence will do when patience is thin.6ReplyView more comments#26 

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BordosV1 day ago

So many hats…its exhausting for sure.3Reply#27 

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Just another bot1 day ago

When the child doesn’t want to listen to you. Like when I start singing sometimes, my 4 year old will straight away ask me to stop lol9ReplyView More Replies…View more comments#28 

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Gillbella19 hours ago

This is me. I love my son but I hate playing rough and tumble4ReplyView more comments#29 

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Sarah Blanche Brinsfield1 day ago

Don’t listen to those bitches!18ReplyView more comments#30 

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Colin L1 day ago

What, reproduction doesn’t magically grant you all the skills of a plumber, master chef, MD, and the endurance of a marathon runner? You must be human like the rest of us!11ReplyView More Replies…View more comments

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